It’s time that we take back the word, “slut.” Rush Limbaugh, in his efforts to degrade and silence women by calling them sluts, has actually done us all a huge favor. For an entire week women’s rights have been at the forefront of media and social networks, as females everywhere express their outrage. The event triggered passion and emotion in women who would normally remain passive and silent, and it has inspired a fresh wave of feminism that can change our world and society. In addition, he has done this during March, which is considered “Women’s History Month.” It is almost like he was actually trying to do us a favor.
The way he treated Sandra Fluke was childish, inappropriate, and sexist. However, Sandra Fluke IS a Slut, and I respect her for it. Hear me Out.
What is a Slut? My favorite definition: “A woman with the morals of a man.
Wikipedia says: “A term applied to an individual who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. The term is generally pejorative and often applied to women as an insult or offensive term of disparagement, meaning “dirty or slovenly.” The term is dated back to the 1400s, when it was used as a derogatory term for women who were sexually free, in other words, “dirty.” It is now 2012, I would think that in the last six centuries we have moved past the idea that women are filthy just because they enjoy sex and pleasure, unless you are hardcore religious and believe that a woman’s place is strictly in the home, in which case you have no place in the Human Right’s Movement, and are therefore a hindrance to social evolution.
The best definition of a Modern Slut comes from the book, “The Ethical Slut” written by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt. In the book a Slut is described as: “a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.” A slut is a person who has taken control of their sexuality and has sex with whomever they choose, regardless of religious or social pressures or conventions to conform to a straight-laced monogamous lifestyle committed to one partner for life.”
In the society we live in it is often only considered morally OK, and even encouraged, when a man is allowed to “spread his seed” and fornicate with many women in a studly fashion, yet not morally right for women to do so, hence the derogatory terms and efforts to “punish” or judge women who choose to enjoy sex. Why is it OK that we are allowing morals and ethics to be Gender based? Using the same logic, in a hypothetical world we can also say that it is OK for men to rob and steal, but if a woman does it, it’s wrong. I assume it is safe to say that most of us believe stealing is wrong in general, not based on gender. So why are we inflicting these strict “morals” on an entire gender? Especially on a subject that is so primal and so natural? At this point, I am stating the obvious. However if the logic is clear and the premise legit, then that gives us even more reason to reject the gender-based morals that are inflicted upon us.
Rush called Sandra Fluke a slut. A truly strong Feminist should react with amusement and pride. After-all, she is a slut, and that is perfectly OK. She is sexually liberated, secure, and aware. She indulges in pleasure as is her right. To become offended and shocked over being called a “slut” is giving the word more power than it should have. All the women who are outraged by this are simply reinforcing the negative connotation of the term, which in turn allows for sexually liberated women to be seen in a negative light. It just adds fuel to the fire, shoving sexually-free women into a narrow category to be shunned, silenced, and judged.
After this happened, a wave of so-called feministic women have responded by insisting they are not sluts, posting on social networks about how far away from the slut status they actually are, and boasting about their ability to be loyal or faithful to one man. Women everywhere are passionately justifying their reasons for using birth control, insisting that it is not because they are a “slut.” A good example (and article) on this: http://thegloss.com/sex-and-dating/birth-control-pill-sluts-370/
This is the completely wrong way to go about this. Yes, the politic issue here is about Birth Control. However, there is a social issue at hand here that is even more dynamic and significant; the issue of women being judged and berated for their sexual freedom. The real, crucial issue has more to do with the way women are treating other women, not so much the way men are treating us. Women are fueling the fire and enabling this sexism by becoming outraged at being considered sexually free, when we should be proud at our ability to choose our paths and partners in life. We should embrace the power we have over our bodies, our pleasure, and men.
We have the power to give ourselves pleasure through masturbation. We have the power to seek out pleasure that we deserve. We have the power to experience a variety of connections and sexual adventures in our lifetimes. We have the power to subtly seduce a man with our eyes, yet we can use that same power to dance around a pole and make a man reach into his pockets. We can break hearts, and we can break egos. Our new found sexual freedom in the last few decades have given us the ability to reclaim our power, get in touch with our inner goddess, and truly love ourselves without the dependence of one man.
Are you ashamed of this? If so, then you must believe that women are insignificant robots whose only purpose on earth is to please a man, or maybe you believe that a woman’s sole desire should be to bear children – so much for pleasure, and the natural, primitive desire to be sexual. If that is the case, I would like to know why we have clitorises, or why sex feels so good.
I respect a woman’s choice to be monogamous. If a woman wishes to remain a virgin until marriage, be faithful to her husband for life, or only have sex within a long-term monogamous relationship: That is her choice. It is a beautiful thing that you have that choice. I also have a choice, and I deserve to have my path respected as well. You are no better than me just because you have chosen to be sexually monogamous. Denying you are a slut so adamantly is an insult to the woman’s movement and the progression of equality. When you say the word with disgust, or try to furiously defend your status as a “non-slut,” you are disrespecting the choice that women make to be sexually free, and you are joining the ranks of sexist men who criticize us for that choice. You are affecting the world we live in and the society your child grows up in. We want our daughters to be strong, powerful, and independent so they can live fulfilling lives. We do not want them to be a prisoner to a derogatory term, enslaved by the fear that they may be seen as “dirty” for indulging in pleasure and entertaining their curiosities.
From my perspective it seems that the only reason anyone would be bitter toward sluts, is if they themselves are not sexually free or aware. Why else would you hate on people who enjoy sex? Much of it comes down to people’s individual morals in regards to monogamy. We live in a world where monogamy does not need to be the only option in life. Through technology, social evolution, culture, and the progression of women in society, we have more paths to choose from than just one. We cross paths with more people, we have more opportunities, and we have power over our own sexuality. Many of us choose to take advantage of that freedom, and we deserve to have that choice respected, just as we can also respect the choice many women (and men) make to be monogamous.
The goal is to abolish labels. The word “slut” need not even exist. Unfortunately, it does, and so in the meantime, we can at least take back the power of that word and use it to make a statement. We can use it to express our pride in our bodies and our choices. We can use it express our defiance and tenacity in the fight for equality and empowerment. We can use it to speak louder, and not be silenced.
I envision a world where humans can be free to participate in safe, sane, consensual sex regardless of gender. I imagine a society when women and men can indulge in the physical pleasures of life without being labeled or criticized. The Slut Revolution is for women and men of all walks of life who believe in sexual freedom and the power to choose.
It is time to start The Slut Revolution.